Have a love affair with yourself

Have a love affair with yourself

Usually, when we hear we should be practicing self-care, we think that means we should treat ourselves to a manicure, take a relaxing bath, or do something else to pamper ourselves.

It’s easy to ignore because most of the time we feel guilty about indulging in something which brings us pleasure, or let’s face it, life is busy enough without finding time for a massage!

Sure, pampering yourself is great, but self-care is so much more than that.

What if I could let you in on a few little tips, so you can practice self-love regularly? I promise these tips won’t take any extra time out of your busy schedule.

Seriously, practicing self-care daily is important, you need to let go of addressing everyone else’s needs before your own and make yourself the priority, because when you do, you get the benefit of a much better version of you, your quality of life improves and so does your confidence.

To get started, treat yourself as if you’re having a love affair … with yourself.
Start treating yourself exactly how you would like to be treated. If you would love your partner to buy you flowers every Friday for example, start buying yourself a gorgeous bunch of flowers every week…

Here’s how you can start treating yourself like a lover

Speak Kindly To Yourself

You’d say kind and loving words to a good friend or partner, words that are truthful and heartfelt. Do the same for yourself.
Pay attention to the chitchat inside your head throughout the day. I bet you’ll be surprised at how many negative self-defeating thoughts are on instinctive repeat.
As soon as an obnoxious thought pops into your head, interrupt it and turn it into kind and loving words.


Listen To Yourself

Listen to what your body is telling you.
Is your body tired?
Try taking a quick break for 10 minutes, meditate, or if possible take a quick power nap.
Is it craving movement?
Go for a walk, or go to the gym. Take a yoga class or do a quick workout at home.
Do you need help?
Then don’t be afraid to ask. Open up your heart, and be truthful with yourself, so you can feel what it is you need.Your physical well-being is the absolute core of a healthy mental, physical, and spiritual body. When it’s out of whack, your life is out of whack too

Forgive Yourself

A good friend or partner forgives you when you make a mistake.
They know that you’re not perfect and are willing to give you another chance. (And if they don’t, you should rethink their place in your life. Just saying.)
We’re all human. Every single one of us makes mistakes every single day. When you screw up, it’s fine. Seriously, it’s totally OK. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. And put it in the past.


Protect Yourself

Great friends and partners will be by your side and protect you at all times.Have you ever had a falling out with a friend that left you feeling glad the friendship was over? That’s because the relationship was toxic. Likely that friend didn’t want what’s best for you. She said the right things but manipulated you into feeling worse about yourself instead of lifting you up and encouraging you to make healthy decisions for your life.
Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who love you. Get rid of those who don’t. Protecting yourself also means learning to say no when you need to. You have to set boundaries in order to ensure there’s enough of you to go around—and enough of you there for you.

Pamper Yourself

Eat foods that nourish your body from the inside out and give you energy instead of leaving you too tired to be good company.
Read books that exercise your brain and challenge you to put yourself first each and every day.
Learn something new to inspire you, take up a new hobby or revisit an old one.
Take care of yourself by putting yourself first.
The more love you have for yourself, the more love you have to give.
Remember this is your life, learn to live to your full potential, you deserve nothing less.

Here’s an exercise for you: Write yourself a love letter of compassion. Talk to yourself as if you’re your own best friend or lover. What would they say to you? Write it down.

Life is meant to be good. When you take care of yourself, everything improves dramatically



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