Life was so different before I learned how to coach myself! Oh, the stories I used to create about situations and the scenarios I made up could make me so mad or miserable.
Self-coaching is a way of looking at our thoughts that aren’t serving us and changing them so that we feel better. It is about questioning our thoughts or beliefs that are causing us negative emotions to see whether they’re even true, and noticing what feelings the thoughts cause.
Through this process, we can begin to understand that our thoughts are just a story that we made up based upon our biased perspective about something. Most of our thoughts aren’t facts. Even if these thoughts are true, we can change them to ones that don’t produce negative emotions.
With practice, you can learn how to select your thoughts in any situation, and you can choose ones that produce better feelings. You can choose the perspective you have on your own life. That is one of the real keys to happiness.
If you would like to learn more about self coaching have a look on amazon at the different books available on this subject
including , Loving What Is by Byron Katie or Self Coaching 101 by Brooke Castillo.
If you incorporate some or all of these practices into your life, you will notice how much easier it is to pause and think, rather than let your menopausal emotions run wild.